My name is Vicki and I live in Charlotte, NC with my husband and five spoiled rotten cats. God has chosen not to give us children (due to my polycystic ovarian syndrome and hormonal disorders), and while it’s been the most challenging thing I’ve faced in life so far I know that God has a great plan for my life, and will use even childlessness for my good somehow, someway!
With that said I’ve not “arrived” yet, and know I won’t arrive until I walk through the Pearly Gates. Until then I’m striving to live my life with purpose and authenticity all for the furthering of God’s master plan!
Hi Vicki!
I also live in Charlotte, NC (well actually Matthews) and although I have not lost all hope, being 41 I am beginnng to realize that I may be forced to accept being childless. From your posts, it sounds like you are a Christian. I am, too.
Email when you have a chance…maybe we could meet for mutual support.
Hi Vicki! I read your post re: “Pity Parties” -’specially ’round this time of year. Ughhhh! But I had to read your little bio….
glad I stopped by.
I’m in Atlanta – will be 3 years now – and without kids a wife needs to find an occupation, so my hubbie & I started a furniture restoration business at our home. Things for a while weren’t bad. Lots to do. This year however, has been pretty bad. But we’ve got lots of hope, still.
Been married for quite a number of years and every Christmas has been a bit of a downer – but this year – and after menopause, has REALLY been low keyed. You go thru the holidays looking at the same TV flicks…and avoid those with little children, if at all possible. This year (the first time!) we avoided the malls – finances were low, so that wasn’t tough – plus we got thru it all by reviewing a few religious movies.
One in particular was an oldie call “The Greatest Story Ever Told”. I particularly appreciate the line in the movie – coming direct from the Bible – when Jesus (as he’s being hauled to his death) says to a group of females, ” Don’t cry for me….for there are days coming when it will be considered BLESSED not to have borne a child…..” LUKE 23:27
I thought I’d share this, since many here seem to be Christians and possibly NOW we are living those times Jesus warned us about. It may be little consolation; but it has helped me thru many a dark day.
Hi Norma,
I’m glad you found me, and while I never rejoice that someone is in the same place I am I’m glad you found me. I have moved to another site. http://www.awomanwithoutchildren.blogspot.com/ So, please be sure to visit me there.
I’m glad you found a way to make the holidays more bearable, and let me be the first to say that without the Lord I don’t know how I would’ve made it this far. Blessings!
Hi, Norma,
I am glad I found your blog….I am forty and still without children……yet we are still trying…….yes it takes the Lord to get through everything that we have already been through…….and will go through…….thanks for your blog…..it has been a comfort to me knowing that I am not alone.
Charlotte
Hi Vicki,
For the longest time I thought about looking for other women like me who couldn’t have children. See, I used to have a group of girlfriends who were all like me, childless. Luckily for them, sad for me, they all have children now. Some from treatments and others from sheer luck. So now I am the only girl in the group without children and it sucks big time!! No one can go out any more, at least not without their children. Conversations, schedules, holidays, weekends, vacations, and even phone calls are about their children.
Thank you for your blog, at least I can have another person in the world who understands me.
hi vicki
me from dubai…. thnks for ur blog and im a childless women too… its so frustarted… i really dont knw how to take this….
Vicki,
Thank you for your honesty, for sharing your life with all of us, and for having a blog that I could find on a dark day just by typing in ‘women without children.’
I am tired of my pity party about lacking kids, and tired of feeling like there is some bigger, greater plan for my life. The truth is…if God wanted me to have them, I would. If He had some bigger expectation from me, He’d let me know! He’s big like that…
Sometimes writing to a person that you know would understand makes you feel better. Thanks for being that person.
Your Friend,
Wendy
Glad I found your Hope has been cruel.
Accept it and move on. See it as an opportunity to get closer to your husband and pursue your shared goals as a couple and/or your own personal goals. Nurture yourself and those around you. You create the love in your life. Thank you, God, for giving.