Some Much Deserved Link Love!

For a long time I thought I was mostly alone out here on the interwebz blogging about my perpetually malfunctioning junk…

(sorry, I’ve been looking for an opportunity to use the word “junk”, and since I don’t hang around with teenagers that opportunity hasn’t arisen, so I just made the opportunity, okay?)

…but in the past few months I have found some wonderful blogs by people who are like me, most likely destined to be forever childless, or are in the throes of infertility and treatments.   I hate to say that I’m not alone…wouldn’t wish this condition on anyone who desires children…but for selfish reasons I’m glad I’m not alone.

I’m overjoyed to have this much-needed sisterhood on the internet (have even been fortunate enough to meet a couple of them in person).   For years I was an island unto myself.   Childlessness isolates you to a great extent especially if you live and work in a community where child-bearing is all important, and really, with our baby-crazed society that’s pretty much anywhere and everywhere these days!

So, I want to introduce you to some of my online friends.   When I’m having a down day they’re just a click away.  Some of them are extremely funny, some are deep and introspective, some are cynical, some are of deep faith, some are not, but they’re all part of the tapestry that illustrates the emotional and spiritual experiences well all share as CNBC.

Here we go!

A Little Pregnant Not a CNBC blog, but an infertility blog.  I’m very new to this blog, but it’s great!   Her hilarious post about being infertile in the seemingly over-fertile world that is Facebook probably would get my infertility post of the year award if I had the power to give such an award.  Bravo!  (I’d even give her a killer after-party.)

La Belette Rouge A very inspirational blog about a woman who attempts to move with her career dreams after infertility.  She also finds herself living away from her beloved hometown and is trying to get back. Boy, can I relate to that!

Life Without Baby Lisa is a great writer, and really knows how to articulate what life is like for the CNBC.  I especially look forward to her “Whiny Wednesday” posts, because we all have  days (not just Wednesdays for  me) where we just want to whine and/or shout about the downside of being childless in a child-crazed world.

Silent Sorority Pamela Jeanne is probably the CNBC equivalent of Joan of Arc (though hopefully, she’ll never be burned at a real or proverbial stake…God forbid, no!).  She’s on a crusade to educate the fertile world about the lives of the childless-not-by-choice women.  She’s even written a wonderful book, Silent Sorority that I would highly recommend to anyone who finds themselves childless not by choice.   Her site is a great place to go for all kinds of resources!

My Infertile Life UNEDITED I met Tami through the CNBC website.  She is the sweetest soul, and we both share a love of cats.    Tami blogs about her ups and downs of infertility treatment and being infertile in a faith where fertility is greatly encouraged.   I love and admire her tender honesty.

A Road Less Traveled I’m new to this blog too, but I’m glad I found it!  This couple has chosen the path my husband and I have chosen (well, we really didn’t choose it…it kind of chose us for the most part), and it’s nice to read blogs from folks in which you have a lot in common.

The last link is not a blog per se, but an online art gallery by an artist who has so far experienced childlessness.  She has truly captured the infertility experience in images and in poetry (If you chose “slideshow” there is some wonderful music to accompany it).   If I have looked at this collection one time I’ve looked at it ten times, and I keep getting drawn back to it.  All I can say is…wow..just WOW!  Art can truly express what thoughts that words cannot adequately convey.   Monica, I don’t know you but I’d love to have a cup of tea with you sometime!

Well, that’s it for now!  Enjoy the links!

(Update:  I just read this in Google reader and was horrified by the typos.  I think I’ve corrected most of them…I totally stink at proofreading my own work.  My apologies).

7 thoughts on “Some Much Deserved Link Love!

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  1. WOW! That’s my blog mentioned on someone else’s blog! WEIRD! LOL. But so NICE! I love your blog too Vicki. It really shows me that there is coping on the other side of this trial. Sadly, I have realized that it never ends…but, you have shown me that you can deal with it. You are a beautiful soul!! Thank you for all your support and encouraging words and prayers. I am so glad I met you!!! 🙂

  2. Hi Vicki
    Thank you for this blog. Now I know for sure I am not alone. My husband and I are living childfree, not by choice. And I do believe it is God’s plan.

    I stumbled upon your blog today, well actually, I googled infertility blogs……then got depressed …… so I googled childfree living blogs.
    I am embarrassed and feel terrible that when I looked at the infertility blogs, I got depressed because many of these woman are not pg, or still trying, etc. I have never been pg, tried for many years……but now I am infertile (at age 43).

    Yet, I just want to say thanks….and I will be following you, my fellow-sister-friend.

    1. Hi Lori,

      Welcome, and thank you for your comments. There is life on the other side of infertility, and sometimes that life does not include a child. You and I know this life. There are challenges, but there are happy times too. I’m glad to say that I seem to be coming out of the years of desperation for a child. I am 42. Reaching my 40s has been a watershed time for me. Midlife crisis teamed with unplanned childlessness is difficult, but I’m finding that every day, week, month I’m progressively better. I’m so humbled and thankful that you will be reading!


  3. Dear Vicki,
    Thanks so much for including me here…really honored! And I’ll be sure to avoid matches 😉

    Wishing you and all CNBC strength, peace and happiness. Best, Pamela

  4. Thank you for your kind words! Isn’t it nice to know you’re not the only one?? I’ve actually been lurking on your blog for awhile now. I promise to comment more often now that I know you’ve been reading my blog too, lol. : )

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